Monday 19 July 2010

Quick Update to the update

I have a few minutes spare, so for anyone who still looks in on this blog i thought i would let you know what happened.

The guy was ok in the end. In fact he seemed to make a bit of a miraculous recovery from what i hear. which seems strange because one minute they are making out he's in serious condition, the next he's out of hospital. WTF ?. You don't get better that quick surely ?.
He doesn't wanna press charges or take things further for three reasons. 1. he was a bit of a twat and well known to the police, so, neither he nore his family wanna say anything. 2 he's also on some sort of parole after being involved in a violent incident himself in the not to distant past. and 3. Getting battered by a queer doesn't help your street cred very much.
It's not as simple as all that of course because the police are already involved and you can't just tell them to forget it and lets all pretend it never happened shall we ?. I know no more because i haven't spoken to Daniel about it for weeks now. It's sort of something he doesn't wanna talk about. So everything i have written above could be bullshit and he might be on the verge of being locked up with the bad men next week for all i know.

But as a side issue (not really) it has also come to light that Daniel is in massive debt. He's run up a few credit cards and owes thousands. I wouldn't mind but it's not as if he's got anything to show for it. The stupid twat. No big holidays, flash car, big house, cloths and jewelry for him. NO, this idiot just frittered it away on nothing. A night out here, a meal there, some new Jeans, Cheap Christmas or birthday presents for people. Maybe the odd DVD or some Shit off Ebay.
Then he pays the minimum on the card and it builds up from there. Its not as if i ever saw him flashing the cash. How did that ever happen ? It's thousands !.
Anyway with the help of his mum and dad, he's sorting this out with an IVA (individual Voluntary Arrangement) to pay it back sometime between now and forever.
They aint paying it for him, he is. so that's his life fucked for a few years. If he doesn't end up going to prison of course.

On one hand i feel sorry for him, on the other i'm really angry.
But probably not for the reason i should be.
I'm annoyed that i'm supposed to be his best mate and i didn't know. He didn't say anything to me and i never had a clue.
From a selfish point of view i feel like i've been lied to and considered less of a friend.
I know i'm not, but you get the idea. If you found out your best mate had a secret side to him that he never told you about, how would you feel ?.

Hang on a minute that last line touched a cord. !

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I was just wondering what happened to u.....sounds like alot.

I had a friend who i found out had hidden a side to himself...we are still friends, but its not the same.

hope things go better for you, and your around blog world more...

hugs

Paul said...

It's good to see you blogging again Michael. Don't feel too bad about Daniel. It's quite likely that once he found he was in financial trouble he was too ashamed/embarrassed to admit to it.
It's not that he thinks any less of you, more that he was worried you'd think less of him.

drew said...

Think of it this way. What if Daniel was hitting you up for cash for his debts. He didn't and he is going to have to pay for his mistakes. We are all not perfect like you Michael ;- ) !! Haven't had a good jab at you in quite a while. Missed you.. looking forward to more posting!! Thats an order!!

naturgesetz said...

First, I'm really glad to see you blogging again.

Second, I agree with Paul about him being embarrassed. I know from personal experience how easy it is to get in over your head on credit card debt. I always paid well over the monthly minimum, but I'm such a procrastinator that I often paid late, which cost me fees and very high interest rates. Finally it got to a point where I accepted an offer from an organization which negotiated a partial write-off of the balances and a manageable monthly payment toward the remainder, with the cards suspended. It still would hace taken years to pay off. When my mum died, the first thing I did with my share of her money was to pay off the balances. Now I always pay in full every month. But while all this was happening, it was not something I'd have felt like talking about with anyone.

Daniel needs you as a friend as much as ever. Maybe you can tell him, "I wish you had told me. Not that I could have paid your debts, but maybe I could have given you some good advice and helped you find ways to cut expenses." I think I understand how you feel, but right now, I'd go easy on him and be the friend you always have been.

I'm glad the other guy recovered, and I hope the police don't make a big case of it.

I've missed hearing about your doings. If you don't have time to post every day, I hope you'll give us something every now and then to let us know how you're doing.