Sunday, 4 October 2009

Gay Groups

I had an email from someone last night, sending me the address of the local Gay support group for when i move. Which was a nice thing to do but not something I would be interested in.

If you are a member of one of these support groups you might not want to read this next bit, and I apologise before hand for my comments.
A couple of years ago in my coming out phase I toyed with the idea of going to one of these meetings to get to know people. I didn‘t have the guts to go through with it but in the bumf i read on the net it said that after the meeting they all usually went on to a certain pub for a couple of drinks afterwards to socialise and get to know people more, and anyone interested was welcome to join them.
So I went for a drink in the same pub at the same time to observe and see what they would be like.

All I could see was a man with a beard in a anorak, two extremely camp guys laughing loudly, two lesbians holding hands and three bald men in their sixties wearing suits. I can’t say they were all part of the group and perhaps they didn’t bother going to the pub this particular night so none of them were actually members, but if put me off completely. I wanted people I could relate to, not this lot. It was like the Adams Family.
I know that is insulting to a group of people who are doing their best to help others, but it’s how I felt at the time.

It's a bit like going on a blind date. Much better to meet people naturally in my mind. I'll either meet them myself or i won't.
Besides even getting my end away and finding totty is currently at the back of my mind at the moment.

And i never thought i would ever hear myself say that !.


Pilgrim said...

*lol* for the Addams family! But what in hell is an "anorak"? Somemthing to do w/anorexia? Sorry for a prbly. dumb question. Propz Pilgrim

Fer said...

sorry mate made me laugh, hey I work at one of those and we take care of everyone there, age not withstanding, so maybe the group was an odd one you couldn't relate to, you can't brand them all for a single incident, still, whatever makes you feel comfortable, you now have friends and people that listen to you so maybe you're not as lost as many people we take care of and that brings me much joy. Still if you need anything I might not be at a group nearby but still will be close when you move. Take care and all the luck.

Mambam said...


sorry, must remember that this is the world wide web, I have included a link to explain the phrase. It's a sort of coat that as far as i am concerned should have been dropped from the fashion world in the 70's. An anorak in my terms is a sort of geek.

Thanks for the offer but the only time i ever meet strangers off the internet it's ususally for sex, not for friendship and help LOL
Seriously, i note your offer and will keep you in mind when i'm all lonely and feeling out of it ;-)
I know these things are helpful and not all are the same and i also know that it's possible this particular group might not have been the group at all.
Thank you anyway, your saved in my contacts to run to when i need someone box